Sologamy: The Ultimate Act of Self-Love

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Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.

Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.

Imagine being so committed to yourself that you decide to walk down the aisle… alone. Sologamy is the act of marrying oneself (partner not included). As foreign as it sounds, it is a rising trend amongst women. Women are marrying themselves at their solo weddings equipped with all the festivities that occur at a traditional wedding.

Is the dating scene that bad forcing women no other choice but to marry themselves? Sologamist women say this act is not about being anti-relationships, and more about being in touch and committed to themselves. As little girls, we are preconditioned to look forward to our knight in shining armor to come and sweep us off of our pretty little feet. We owe this mindset to heteronormative fairy tales we begin watching as young as 2 years old. Young girls are rarely taught self-love and self-acceptance. As the young girl grows into a teenager and begins dating, she is not taught how to cultivate her belief systems. Teens will often lack the skill set to decide what may be best for them independent of a relationship.

Love is like a good cake. You don’t know when it’s coming but you better eat it when it does.

Love is like a good cake. You don’t know when it’s coming but you better eat it when it does.

In today's society, women who are single and happy are viewed as the exact opposite. They are automatically looked down upon as being single and miserable. According to the overly ignorant, a woman who is single with no children has to be a closet lesbian. There is a grave misbelief that being in a committed relationship heading towards marriage is the ultimate goal and end all be all in a woman's life. We all know this to be untrue. This general societal view is one of the many reasons why some women are severely depressed. They are frantically on the hunt for this fairy tale life that only exists in the Disney movies they’ve watched since toddlers.

Sologamy is solely about the individual proclaiming that they are worthy and showing that they are more than enough with or without a partner. Even if we do not agree with a sologamist lifestyle, we should all appreciate the fact that these individuals are courageous enough to put themselves first in a world where so many cannot do so.